Dear Person Who Wrote The Open Letter to Target:
Feel free to agree or disagree with the politics and policies regarding public restrooms. That is your perogative. However, it is incredibly cruel and ignorant to assume that transgender people have any need when going into a restroom other than clearing their bladders, checking their Facebook and taking a gander at themselves in the mirror just like the rest of us.
Being transgender is an incredibly complex thing with plenty of sound scientific backing to prove that it is not just a whim or a scheme by perverts to prey on innocent children. If that were the case, what the heck is the deal with the enormous numbers of transgender children? What is their wicked scheme? Isn’t is just possible that the glands and hormones that wreak havoc in all of us constantly could be shooting out at levels in some people that leave them incredibly confused as to why they have the genitals of one sex, but the mind and soul of another?
Choosing to accept and embrace ourselves authentically is a human birthright. It does not lead to a life of perversion. I assure you, there are far more non transgender people on the National Sex Offender Registry.
As a person who has been the victim of sexual assault I find it insulting that you used that as part of your argument. How dare you toss those stats out there in an attempt to push at people’s moral heartstrings. Here are some stats for you since you seem to love them so much:
4: The number of times I was touched inappropriately as an adolescent.
4: The number of those men who belonged to or were involved in a church or church youth camp setting.*
*I refer to them as men because
a.) that is what it states on their birth certificates
b.) that is the gender they identify as and
c.) that is the term their wives, children and members of their churches use to describe them.
I do not call them men because they deserve the term. They only deserve the term weak and hypocritical.
0: the number of times I have assumed all white Christian men are sexual predators simply because they share some basic traits with men who harmed me.
0: The number of times I have been accosted by a transgender individual in a public restroom.
0: The number of times I have looked at the genitals of anyone using a public restroom at the same time as me.*
*minus diaper changing of my own children. And even then it was nothing I enjoyed. At all.
Infinity: the amount of hope that I have that your insensitive letter does not bring one ounce of shame or pain upon any person struggling with their identity. And if some day that person is a child of yours, I hope they blossom into a beautiful, free, authentic human.
Guess what? You have used a public restroom with a transgender individual in your lifetime. You survived. I’ll give you a minute to deal with that truthbomb.
In the meantime, I can help you with a problem you mentioned. If your children ask you about the genitals they see in a public restroom, please ask them politely to leave the stall where someone is trying to do their business. Then have a talk with them about looking at other people’s privates. That should take care of it. Thanks!
Ps. Thank you Target. Equality rocks. ❤
I support the right of any person to identify with whatever sex/age they wish to be identified. I believe in my heart that those people pose no threat to our children, either at home or in public places. It’s the same thing as when people thought being gay also meant you were a pedophile. I do not believe for an instant that legitimate transgender individuals are going to start molesting women in bathrooms.
Having said this, Canada has had the “bathroom law” for two years now. A man claiming to identify as a woman has used that status to sexually molest a 5 year old, a 27 year old mentally challenged woman and sexually assaulted several women while living with them in two different womens’ shelters. Washington state decided it would not prevent a 45-year-old man who presents himself as a transgender “female” from lounging naked in a women’s locker room in an area frequented by girls as young as six. Teenage girls on a high school swim team were using the facilities at a university when they saw a transgender female deliberately exposing male genitalia through the glass window in a sauna. Police told one outraged mother that the university could not bar the biological male from the premises.
These laws are intended well, but inherently flawed and need to be modified to be able to deal with sexual predators. Someone who identifies as a woman while she purposely exposes her penis to children needs to be have that status instantly revoked and be arrested on the spot, tried as a male and sent to prison as a male. Falsely identifying as a transgender does not erase the fact that a penis is a penis if you are flaunting it. A straight woman does not have the right to flash her genitalia in public. Why is a false transgender woman allowed to? You want to identify as a woman? Fine. You now get to follow the same laws that women (and men) have to follow. That includes keeping your junk in your clothes.
The thing is, people that have a gender identity that is different than their biological gender do not go around flaunting their genitals. The persons in your example above were clearly exploiting the law.
That was my point exactly. The law is fine. We aren’t going to be attacked my any transgender individuals. My point was that the law needs to address the people who are faking trans status to get into places where they can expose/molest/attack. Right now, if I, as a man, were to walk into a women’s bathroom the women would either order me out or report me to someone. With the new laws, a fake trans person can just announce that they are trans and be allowed in. The law needs to address what happens to fake trans people who try use the trans laws to gain access to areas they aren’t currently allowed to be. The repercussions of faking trans status need to be severe.